The Happiest People's Equation...

Often in life, we fall in the pit of darkness created by our own minds which could be circumstantial or sometimes explicitly delusional. Regardless of the case, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, though that darkness is an abyss and like black hole it drains all the energies down the spiral but yet there is always a way out. Here in this piece I will reveal the escape from the trickery and cruelty of our desolated minds. I will impart my own lessons through observations which will break this vicious cycle of being unhappy and sad. Let’s embark on this journey to success together.

In my quest of discovering bliss in day to day life I encountered people of all sorts and among them I find those who are always happy, no matter what is happening in their lives. Curiosity is in my nature and deep down I had the same need to be happy so I allowed myself to observe them with closer proximity. Knowing them closely and analyzing their behaviors in every situation they come across and the struggles and steps they take to drive joy and peace in difficult times; I formulated an equation of happiness based on the psyche of the happiest people. I integrated everything I learned in a precise, easy to comprehend, point wise conclusion set, which I believe would benefit every individual in some way.

The happiest people are those who kill their Egos.

Ego is the prime instigator of pride, arrogance, vanity, obsession, anger and so on. Happiest people don’t have “I, me, mine and myself” in their dictionaries of life. They annihilate their egos by constantly reminding themselves that they are just a grain of sand in the entirety of this universe. They are humble in their treatment of others and consider their achievements as blessings bestowed by Higher Authority.They divert their focuses from inward to outwardly phenomenon and believe themselves as a commoner.

The happiest people take criticism, condemnation and hatred positively.

The most difficult thing is to absorb criticism and hatred that world throws at you but surprisingly it is an easy job for the happiest people as they already have crushed their Egos. Ego compels a person to retaliate, sometimes in the most inappropriate manner when charged with verbal assault. Absence of ego, keeps a person calm even in provocative situations. The happiest people are not consumed by the negativity of the world or conditions that shake their lives; instead they tackle everything with positive set of mind and turn the unfavorable situations into favorable ones.

The happiest people agree with others but never forsake their beliefs.

Arguments are the basis of discord and can ruin even the strongest of ties. The happiest people have the tendency to agree with everyone in good faith yet they hold onto their own beliefs firmly. They never impose their thinking on others rather they say “you go your way I go mine” and they articulate it with respect and love so that their intentions are not misinterpreted. They avoid confrontation usually and discuss instead of arguing and whenever during a discussion they sense it is getting heated, they drop it at once. Their main aim is the conservation of peace and harmony through words and actions and thus they never shrink to engage themselves with people coming from diverse backgrounds.

The happiest people believe that today is all they have.

Past is gone and with it all the moments, good or bad, that cannot be altered and changed. Future is an illusion; it has not yet arrived; worrying about both will rob the peace and richness of the now, this moment and this day. The happiest people are of the view that today is the day to live to the fullest. They don’t retrospect nor they prospect rather they seize the day and live for now. They live each moment as if it is their last. They give importance to tasks they are dealing or people they are handling in the present moment.

The happiest people improve the quality of their thoughts.

No one in this world is immune to miseries and tragedies that come along as a baggage of this life. The happiest people are those who tackle such unfortunate events by their strong determination which is backed by deep introspection and selection of positive thoughts over multitudes of negative ones. The thought pattern determines our reactions to critical situations. People who are happiest solely rely on their positive thoughts, they see every cloud with silver lining and that with hardships come ease. Optimism practiced by happiest people let them pass through all the test of times and they rise strong and inches taller after every fall.

The happiest people smile often and make friends quickly.

Smile is the language, universally acknowledged for its miraculous effects on its receiver. It is the gesture that invites others to open up for a conversation. The happiest people use it as a tool to mingle in a crowd and be noticed by everyone around them. They exude positive vibes, through the smiles they wear and with the use of their body language. Others are gravitated with this show of amiability and are readily drawn to make friends with the happiest people. The best thing about them is that they are genuinely interested in other people and give them due importance and undivided attention. They are so down to earth that they make friends with people of all ages effortlessly. They are liked and loved by everyone equally.

The happiest people follow their hearts and chase their dreams.

Science has proved that heart is similar to brain as it has same network of neurons, neurotransmitters and other cells. Heart is found to be an independent organ that can learn, remember, process and act. The decisions that are taken by involving heart never fail us. The happiest people always listen to their hearts, which knows nothing but optimism. Their hearts give them faith and hope to work towards their goals in life. They extract courage and unwavering will from their hearts to fulfill dreams and at the end of each day they find themselves at peace because no matter how slowly they are inching towards their goal, they are doing what is needed to be done and that keeps them moving.

The happiest people forgive, forget and move on.

Forgiving people who wronged you in any way doesn't mean you are weak rather it shows your character and resolution of letting go what hurt you, so that you no more hold on to that heart pricking memory. The happiest people are hasty in forgiving people because they want restoration of their peace of mind at earliest. They fabricate their minds in a way that they forget every troubling memory and the injuries inflicted. They let lose such thoughts and clutch on something constructive. They move on with their lives and never re-read chapters of the past. They hold no grudges in their hearts for anyone. Their hearts are pristine and infertile for the seeds of hatred and malice.

The happiest people give importance to everyone and everything.

Everyone craves for importance and they can go at any length to feed this need. The happiest people are those who realize this fact. They give rightful importance to everyone and receive the same in reciprocation. They appreciate others and everything they do. They are nice toward their families and friends. They attract more happiness by giving happiness away. The happiest people love and accept everything and everyone as they are and give due importance to whatever they come across in their lives no matter how insignificant it is in nature.

The happiest people live and let live.

A lot of people love to interfere in the lives of others. They judge people by their speech, conducts and actions. They like to change the thinking and behavior of others according to what they believe is appropriate. On the other hand, the happiest people advocate the freedom in every aspect. They reserve their opinions and comments to themselves and when they think that it is necessary to speak up, they express in such a way that everyone affirms and approves of them, as they maintain impartiality when presenting the facts. They think everyone has the right to live the way they want to live and same goes for them.

The happiest people are givers and helpers.

The best antidote for a poisonous heart and distressed mind is being of any use to other human beings. Givers and helpers don’t have a perfect life but their heart and minds are always filled with contentment and peace. The happiest people are those who help others with everything they have. They help and give people fortune, care, love and support. They believe, “a candle doesn't lose its light by lightning the other candle rather there will be more brightness” and that “a single flickering light is the end of long prevailing darkness”.

The happiest people indulge in leisure and recreation more often.

In this busy and stressful life it is mandatory for everyone to engage themselves in doing what they love, where they are alone with the thing which calm their nerves and bring their restless minds to rest. The happiest people are aware of the importance of leisure and recreation and so they take on activities such as some hobbies, meditation, praying, music, socializing and exercise, as the part of their daily lives. Such activities release positive hormone known as endorphin that ensures over all well-being of the person. The positive people allot “me time” in their daily schedule and enjoy in solitude what they love the most.

The happiest people are always grateful for the blessings they receive.

The root of all dissatisfaction is the inability to acknowledge the blessings one receives on daily basis. People who are thankful for everything they possess have satisfied souls. The happiest people are filled with gratitude; they thank Lord and people for everything they give, with utmost sincerity. The never compare themselves with others in status who are given more and always gracious towards those who are given less. They never complain about the sufferings and problems they face instead they appreciate the good things they receive which are abundant in numbers.