Euphoria...

I love to love and being loved. It gives me immense happiness and even the notion makes me giddy. I love listening I love yous when I know that are said with solemn sincerity. It happens more often with the kids I associate with. As kids are innocent and pure, they blurt out whatever comes to their minds without forethought and tell the naked facts and observations. They don't fake things like adults and that is the very reason I love their company. The little girls living next door are fairies or I compare them to butterflies; delicate and beautiful, spreading colors in other's lives. Whenever they see me they shout at the top of their voices 'Anum Baji' and then say 'Ap humaray ghar ayen na please'. I visit their house sometimes, I wish I could spend more time with them but adults have issues and I don't want to alienate my terms with their mother. I love kids and their beautiful thoughts, I love to give them surprises, they love eatables and I also happen to love those, so I throw them lavish parties with all you can eat menu and take away the rest offer. I love when they hug and kiss me unexpectedly, I crazily love surprises and no surprise can ever be bigger than a warm kiss and a tight hug. Today, the kids who come to my place for studies handed me a beautiful card which made my heart flutter with delight. Although, I don't teach them and more so I never interacted with them properly but they just gave me so much importance I don't know I deserve or not. I hugged them for their loving gesture. I will return this surprise with a big treat on my big day!

The card they made for me is attached here and I love to read it again and again, as it excites euphoria within me!

Of Ashes and Snow... #repost

Long ago, a barren land,

Alone with its infertile sand.

Unaware of the sight of greenery,

Barely knew what is serenity.

Never heard a chirp of bird,

Never seen a blossom of bud.

Heat, snow and rainfall,

Around these its world revolved.

Being used to same state,

Didn't allow a plant to tend its chest.

Tired of feelings hard to imagine,

To love and be loved by none, was the conviction.

But who knows the games fate plays,

That a small seed can change days.

A bloom grew into a forest of dove,

That my friend is the power of love. 

Promises of tomorrows in dreams of today,

A love so strong to rob all doubts away.

Every love had to give the test of time,

A storm smoothed the land with its chime,

Not long it took to draw back to sanity,

A bubble of illusion burst by reality.

Coming back to senses when it was recalled,

Happiness is short-lived, vows are void, they say all.

A dying hope of love to return,

Maybe tomorrow bring a different sun.

Days passed, months flied,

Hopes and wishes all died.

Summer came to burn it into ashes,

Winter arrived to freeze it with snow.

That barren land is a place in my heart,

Tell the untold tale of ashes and snow!

The Happiest People's Equation...

Often in life, we fall in the pit of darkness created by our own minds which could be circumstantial or sometimes explicitly delusional. Regardless of the case, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, though that darkness is an abyss and like black hole it drains all the energies down the spiral but yet there is always a way out. Here in this piece I will reveal the escape from the trickery and cruelty of our desolated minds. I will impart my own lessons through observations which will break this vicious cycle of being unhappy and sad. Let’s embark on this journey to success together.

In my quest of discovering bliss in day to day life I encountered people of all sorts and among them I find those who are always happy, no matter what is happening in their lives. Curiosity is in my nature and deep down I had the same need to be happy so I allowed myself to observe them with closer proximity. Knowing them closely and analyzing their behaviors in every situation they come across and the struggles and steps they take to drive joy and peace in difficult times; I formulated an equation of happiness based on the psyche of the happiest people. I integrated everything I learned in a precise, easy to comprehend, point wise conclusion set, which I believe would benefit every individual in some way.

The happiest people are those who kill their Egos.

Ego is the prime instigator of pride, arrogance, vanity, obsession, anger and so on. Happiest people don’t have “I, me, mine and myself” in their dictionaries of life. They annihilate their egos by constantly reminding themselves that they are just a grain of sand in the entirety of this universe. They are humble in their treatment of others and consider their achievements as blessings bestowed by Higher Authority.They divert their focuses from inward to outwardly phenomenon and believe themselves as a commoner.

The happiest people take criticism, condemnation and hatred positively.

The most difficult thing is to absorb criticism and hatred that world throws at you but surprisingly it is an easy job for the happiest people as they already have crushed their Egos. Ego compels a person to retaliate, sometimes in the most inappropriate manner when charged with verbal assault. Absence of ego, keeps a person calm even in provocative situations. The happiest people are not consumed by the negativity of the world or conditions that shake their lives; instead they tackle everything with positive set of mind and turn the unfavorable situations into favorable ones.

The happiest people agree with others but never forsake their beliefs.

Arguments are the basis of discord and can ruin even the strongest of ties. The happiest people have the tendency to agree with everyone in good faith yet they hold onto their own beliefs firmly. They never impose their thinking on others rather they say “you go your way I go mine” and they articulate it with respect and love so that their intentions are not misinterpreted. They avoid confrontation usually and discuss instead of arguing and whenever during a discussion they sense it is getting heated, they drop it at once. Their main aim is the conservation of peace and harmony through words and actions and thus they never shrink to engage themselves with people coming from diverse backgrounds.

The happiest people believe that today is all they have.

Past is gone and with it all the moments, good or bad, that cannot be altered and changed. Future is an illusion; it has not yet arrived; worrying about both will rob the peace and richness of the now, this moment and this day. The happiest people are of the view that today is the day to live to the fullest. They don’t retrospect nor they prospect rather they seize the day and live for now. They live each moment as if it is their last. They give importance to tasks they are dealing or people they are handling in the present moment.

The happiest people improve the quality of their thoughts.

No one in this world is immune to miseries and tragedies that come along as a baggage of this life. The happiest people are those who tackle such unfortunate events by their strong determination which is backed by deep introspection and selection of positive thoughts over multitudes of negative ones. The thought pattern determines our reactions to critical situations. People who are happiest solely rely on their positive thoughts, they see every cloud with silver lining and that with hardships come ease. Optimism practiced by happiest people let them pass through all the test of times and they rise strong and inches taller after every fall.

The happiest people smile often and make friends quickly.

Smile is the language, universally acknowledged for its miraculous effects on its receiver. It is the gesture that invites others to open up for a conversation. The happiest people use it as a tool to mingle in a crowd and be noticed by everyone around them. They exude positive vibes, through the smiles they wear and with the use of their body language. Others are gravitated with this show of amiability and are readily drawn to make friends with the happiest people. The best thing about them is that they are genuinely interested in other people and give them due importance and undivided attention. They are so down to earth that they make friends with people of all ages effortlessly. They are liked and loved by everyone equally.

The happiest people follow their hearts and chase their dreams.

Science has proved that heart is similar to brain as it has same network of neurons, neurotransmitters and other cells. Heart is found to be an independent organ that can learn, remember, process and act. The decisions that are taken by involving heart never fail us. The happiest people always listen to their hearts, which knows nothing but optimism. Their hearts give them faith and hope to work towards their goals in life. They extract courage and unwavering will from their hearts to fulfill dreams and at the end of each day they find themselves at peace because no matter how slowly they are inching towards their goal, they are doing what is needed to be done and that keeps them moving.

The happiest people forgive, forget and move on.

Forgiving people who wronged you in any way doesn't mean you are weak rather it shows your character and resolution of letting go what hurt you, so that you no more hold on to that heart pricking memory. The happiest people are hasty in forgiving people because they want restoration of their peace of mind at earliest. They fabricate their minds in a way that they forget every troubling memory and the injuries inflicted. They let lose such thoughts and clutch on something constructive. They move on with their lives and never re-read chapters of the past. They hold no grudges in their hearts for anyone. Their hearts are pristine and infertile for the seeds of hatred and malice.

The happiest people give importance to everyone and everything.

Everyone craves for importance and they can go at any length to feed this need. The happiest people are those who realize this fact. They give rightful importance to everyone and receive the same in reciprocation. They appreciate others and everything they do. They are nice toward their families and friends. They attract more happiness by giving happiness away. The happiest people love and accept everything and everyone as they are and give due importance to whatever they come across in their lives no matter how insignificant it is in nature.

The happiest people live and let live.

A lot of people love to interfere in the lives of others. They judge people by their speech, conducts and actions. They like to change the thinking and behavior of others according to what they believe is appropriate. On the other hand, the happiest people advocate the freedom in every aspect. They reserve their opinions and comments to themselves and when they think that it is necessary to speak up, they express in such a way that everyone affirms and approves of them, as they maintain impartiality when presenting the facts. They think everyone has the right to live the way they want to live and same goes for them.

The happiest people are givers and helpers.

The best antidote for a poisonous heart and distressed mind is being of any use to other human beings. Givers and helpers don’t have a perfect life but their heart and minds are always filled with contentment and peace. The happiest people are those who help others with everything they have. They help and give people fortune, care, love and support. They believe, “a candle doesn't lose its light by lightning the other candle rather there will be more brightness” and that “a single flickering light is the end of long prevailing darkness”.

The happiest people indulge in leisure and recreation more often.

In this busy and stressful life it is mandatory for everyone to engage themselves in doing what they love, where they are alone with the thing which calm their nerves and bring their restless minds to rest. The happiest people are aware of the importance of leisure and recreation and so they take on activities such as some hobbies, meditation, praying, music, socializing and exercise, as the part of their daily lives. Such activities release positive hormone known as endorphin that ensures over all well-being of the person. The positive people allot “me time” in their daily schedule and enjoy in solitude what they love the most.

The happiest people are always grateful for the blessings they receive.

The root of all dissatisfaction is the inability to acknowledge the blessings one receives on daily basis. People who are thankful for everything they possess have satisfied souls. The happiest people are filled with gratitude; they thank Lord and people for everything they give, with utmost sincerity. The never compare themselves with others in status who are given more and always gracious towards those who are given less. They never complain about the sufferings and problems they face instead they appreciate the good things they receive which are abundant in numbers.

The Road to Success: Content Writing for Everyone!

Writing content on web such as blogs, website pages, academic papers and articles is one of the growing and expanding businesses worldwide. People hire content writers to write for their customers, web page traffic, explaining their businesses and to be a part of giant search engines. The writing of research papers is also a big area which content writers cover.  A good content writer is the one who entertains, involves and informs people in the best way possible. To become a prolific content writer you require certain set of skills. It is not necessary that you have to make your article, blog or whatever you are writing loaded with glossy vocabulary and complex sentences. The key is to write short, simple, understandable, to the point yet attractive piece that would benefit you and others in some or another. Here are few essential points which will help you to embark on successful journey of endless opportunities in the field of content writing:

Think of Common and Most Searched Topics:

The essence of a general writing piece you want to create is its choice of topic and the catchy headline. It is not what you want to write, it is what people want to read that matters. Your matter should be consolidated, proper and authentic. Generate topics that are widely read and searched with simple use of language. Readers on internet are prone to get bored easily; they don’t like to read abundant text and are impatient to end it immediately. To engage their attention you should produce simple yet interesting material.

Stick to Topic and Write the Relevant Stuff:

One of the most essential point that writer misses when it comes to writing is being relevant and to the point. You should not drag a topic, which makes it hard to read and boring. Don’t waver from the theme of your subject. It is better that you search massively and go through different writings to take the ideas and then summarize them in your own bundle of words.  Don’t write long essays that you lose the ground on which your topic stands and make your article confusing and open to criticism.

Produce More and Welcome Feedback:

Focus on producing more and more articles with unmatched frequency. Don’t worry about the revenue you are generating, take writing as your hobby and love doing it. Make amends in your style and the way you put things in a piece. Offer people to read your writing and give their worthy feedback. Allow room for improvement and changes. Search and research on what people generally like to read and write on most readable niches on internet like fashion, music, movies, earning online, travel, lifestyle, self help, relationships, health, sports, animals, so on and so forth.

Burst the Stress Bubble

5 ways to close the door to stress…

“Let’s be friends with stress” is easier said than done. In a life full of competition and expectation, stress is a part and parcel. Feeling jittery before a public appearance, being late for work, failing to meet deadlines, meeting new people and various other events which trigger our natural responses to fear or anxiety are generalized as normal stressful situations. These can be tackled with little effort by either diverting your focus or eliminating the root cause of stress through facing it. The stress in these situations is natural, transient and considered healthy. It motivates us to achieve certain things, improves our performance and increases our experience.  On the contrary, if the worry or stress is continuous over a period of time and does not show signs to vanish naturally, it becomes chronic and then the need to be friend with it kicks in. In this article you will learn how to cope and beat this permanent stress by following, adopting and making easier changes in your lifestyle.

1.    Organize Life, Manage Time

‘First thing first’ a famous line resolves many problems of unplanned routine. Line up your tasks according to priority, focus on important and urgent things, and maintain a to-do list. Time your tasks and try achieving them within that time.  Avoid procrastination it would create a pipeline of undone goals.

2.    Consume Healthy

It is said stomach is the second Brain. Balance your diet by including all the nutrition packaged in organic food. Plan out your meals and divide them in four to five bouts a day. Feast on fruits, vegetables, whole grains, dry fruits, dairy and poultry, more protein and less carbohydrate. Keep your pace slow while you eat and keep space for air in your stomach. Drink a cup of herbal or green tea (decaffeinated) as a stress relieving supplement. Consume ample amount of water.

3.    Physical Activity

Walking off stress is the best way which is recognized globally by health experts. A brisk stroll in morning is regarded an unbeatable match to blow off stress. If not regularly, try making a routine of physical exertion span once or twice a week. Be active, don’t skip the chance when you can walk a distance to some place or take a flight of stairs.

4.    Relaxation Techniques

Relax and unnerve yourself by breathing control technique, yoga, meditation, massage, prayer, laughter, music and sleep.  Socialize and discuss your problems with your loved ones, friends and experts.  Allot some ‘me time’ in your daily schedule. Pursue a hobby/ interest or do volunteer work to motivate yourself and increase your worth. Go for shopping or sight seeing. Be close to nature, look and contemplate on the life existing around you. Help someone in need and spread love and peace.

5.    Optimism

Move ahead in life with positive attitude, explore your talents, challenge yourself and take risks. Remind yourself to smile often. Accept the things you can’t change and feel positive about them. Attract good thoughts and opinions and repel negativity. Practice optimism and neutrality in controversial situations. Avoid debate, argument and confrontation; solve problems rather by discussion with positive approach. Appreciate and reward yourself for achievements and be grateful for them.  

Your Silence...

Afresh hope of desire burns tonight,
My heart in your silence flight.

My constant tries to break the ice,
Your persistent refusal on the other side.

Then again I tried, Then again I failed,
Making all efforts, of no avail.

Your act of silence to keep distance,
Resolving to, not giving an instance.

My joy, pleasure, torture and despair,
Happy and sad days, make life fair.

Though to hear your voice again,
I lived a million moments in pain.

To be addressed one day, rises a hope,
Unites us both, strongly I hold that rope.

Rejoice in this silence is my reason for now,
My being in your submission forever bows.

In My Reverie...

Every night in my retreat,

In memory of your first greet.

Ceaseless pleasure that I find,

Feeling, words can never define.

Short lively gazes, bright blooming smiles,

cover a distance of thousand miles.

Beautiful face, perfect voice,

looks that arrest, echoes that entice.

A story of long gone days,

continue to live in distinct ways.

Words unspoken, feelings concealed,

stays on lips and eyes, ready to reveal.

As time requires young birds to fly,

In collection of words you passed me by.

With constant appearance in my mind,

Sense of nearness leaves regrets behind.

Wide awake through the night,

Day dreaming on its height.

A deep longing in heart, rose to fight,

Barrier of distance, can't stop souls to unite.

Years of ages as they went,

In few moments a lifetime spent.

While imagination sets on fire,

need of your presence gets dire.

Though we shall never meet,

still for you my heart beats.

These brief meetings in my reverie,

Worth more than any treasury.

Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People - A Summary

Searching through the shelves, on a hunt for a new adventure, I got my hands laid on the book which previously had infused positivity in my life, altered my behavior and inspired to bring about changes that are appreciated by those surrounded me. A cover so familiar that I can with my eyes closed recall each and every detail, the same smiling face with determined gazes of a man who convinces with fine lineaments, deep creases around brows, wrinkled skin and gray streaked hair that he is in possession of a power that can change his reader’s life forever and the catchy title which no one can ignore makes this book hard to miss. A phenomenal work, a complete guideline on human relations, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” is a masterpiece written on a fact which is a prime interest of every human being. How to understand and get along with people, how to win them to your own way of thinking, how to leave good impressions on them, how to call their attention, how to gain their trust, how to earn reputation and more importantly how to make them do your job without tricking, coaxing and taking advantage of them are the main features of this book. These points may seem idealistic and childish to some, but if carried out as instructed are way realistic and practical.

Dale Carnegie has packed so much wisdom in the pages that although written decades ago it still relates to the modern days because the theme of the book is not about a particular organization or relevant for a particular class, it’s a book written for all, there is no limit of time or boundary of space as it encompasses people who irrespective of advancement in technology and growth, maintain similarities throughout ages. The insights and lessons, analogies and anecdotes are appropriately put which aids in comprehending the message more explicitly. The book is proven miraculous in reaping friendships, accomplishing one’s needs and wants, strengthening ties and reshaping one’s perspective of interaction with others and acquiring a peaceful and buoyant ambience; according to testimonials and enormous feedback.

This book is for those who advocate good and virtuous conduct like myself and condemn any selfish, mean course adopted when handling and dealing with masses. I would like to bring into knowledge of those who are interested in pursuing this quest with me that this voyage will worth your time and would be an exciting learning experience, and for those who are not on the same page, I implore them to stop here and gladly wage a bye.

This book is divided into six parts and I will summarize each part in the best way I can.

Part One: Fundamental points to be considered when dealing with people

PRINCIPLE 1: AVOID CRITICISM, CONDEMNATION AND COMPLAINTS

It is a universally acknowledge truth that no one likes criticism be it positive or negative. It is lethal, a substantial source of arousing ill feelings, resentment and may incur an injury that left the one subjected to such exposures of ruthless words, offended to a degree to dislike, even loath and to worst extent inflict the same damage as revenge. When people themselves do something which brings them into the circle of criticism they stubbornly believe in the rightness of their doings and justify their actions with strong opposition and debate.

What makes criticism ineffective is that it puts people on their guard and makes them strive to justify their position. It is easy to complain, condemn and judge other person but it is hard to realize what cause them to take such measures and act in that particular way. We should not impose our ideas, judgments and beliefs on others. Try to analyze the situation from another person’s standpoint, understand why the person acted in that way and what would we do in similar circumstances. Criticism barely produces lasting results as it airs the spark of indignation, hurt people feelings, makes them feel less important and vex them to conduct inappropriately.

Man is more a creature of emotion than logic, when stimulated by criticism tends to nurture prejudice and malice and by praise and regard gets motivated. It is convenient to hold a grudge than to admit and correct the wrong done. Instead of finding faults, filing complaints and condemning others we should see from others viewpoint and search for solutions. Anybody can criticize, condemn and complain, but it takes a man of character to understand, tolerate, ignore and forgive and those who traverse this path raise their reliability and honor in everyone’s eyes. Treat people with greatness and so they may show theirs. If resentment stirs our life tomorrow why not we avoid it today, live and let live should be the order of the day.

PRINCIPLE 2: FEED THE HUNGER OF IMPORTANCE

Among all needs of a man the most unfulfilled one is the desire to be important, the desire to be great. If our forebears did not have the urge for a feeling of importance, civilization would have been impossible. Like other needs, people have different needs of importance and wanted to receive in the way they appreciate. However our feeling of importance determines our character and is the most significant thing about us.

Everyone craves for importance; we can feed what they want with appreciation and enjoy what they do for us in reciprocation. We can make anyone feel special by complimenting their attributes, mentioning slightest changes and praising a job done well. In return the person would be grateful and will be at our service.

When people do not get appreciated for their goodness and failed to acquire rightful attention, they go to extreme levels to demand their rights and usually become criminals, develop depression and go insane. Most people find the feeling of importance in insanity which has been rejected in reality. People should not be taken for granted, a worker should be appreciated and encouraged for services instead of being criticized for mistakes and introduced with motivation and incentives for better performance. A husband or wife should be recognized as a working partner doing good to a family by continuous cooperation and should be regarded high for their efforts.

Research has proven that people better perform under a spell of approval rather in a pressure of criticism. When you compliment someone they feel the importance of being noticed and you yourself earn respect and likeness in return. But the key is to compliment without flattery and insincerity, for shallow and selfish praise is easily detectable. The difference between appreciation and flattery is that former comes from heart and latter from mouth. When you want to praise someone even if you don’t want anything from them do it wholeheartedly. The words you utter would brighten someone’s day and reverberate everywhere in their lives.

PRINCIPLE 3: YOUR WANT IS NOT WHAT THEY WANT

If you want to master this one first omit the word I from your conversation. People are not interested in what you want; it is their own which triggers the urge to entertain a talk. Majority makes mistake with this one. When they want something from another person they put it in selfish terms by saying I want this to be done by this time, without giving forethought that people are only concerned about their wants what they get out of your proposal is their main interest. Let’s analyze an example if you sell your product to someone, you will go nowhere if you tell how great your company is or lauding your product, but by telling how good this product can be to them or what benefits they can drive from it, would make them buy it.

In order to get people do what you want them to do you have to think about what they want and the next thing to examine is how you can make them achieve their want that eventually benefits both the parties. If you want something out of someone do not abruptly put forth the proposition, arouse in them an eager want, convince what good lies in it for them and guide through the way to achieve it. When giving an idea which you wanted to be accepted by others first inject it in their minds and then persuade it’s theirs and see them happily work towards it.

If you place your want without taking into account others wants they will not take it into consideration, but if you put your proposal by luring their interest and talking in terms of what they are getting out of it they will not waste a minute to adopt it as their own. Highlight the profits, benefits and other goods coming out of something and see people doing it for mutual benefits.

Part Two: How to Make Others like You

PRINCIPLE 1: GENUINELY TAKE INTEREST IN THEM

The first and foremost way to make people like you is to be genuinely interested in them. You can make more friends in few months by taking sincere interest in their interests than by entertaining casual friendships over a span of few years. According to a study the most frequently used letter in English Language is the letter “I” and that is because people are mostly concerned with themselves and are in the least interested about what is happening in others life.

When talking to someone you will realize that many a times you are being cut, switched or directed towards the topic of their interest. Everyone wants to talk about themselves and till they think they are well received they will not stop. How it makes you feel when someone seems interested in your ideas or beliefs? It will make you like them more than others who show no interest. People who live their lives without showing much interest in other miss a lot by not gaining information and mostly because of not earning true friendships. A true friend is the one who is genuinely interested in what you say or do, give importance to you, listen to your problems and come up with solutions. One more thing which can be done to strengthen friendship is the remembrance of birthdays, anniversaries and important occasion in others life.

Another thing that would certainly make people divert their attention towards you is to greet them in good spirits, with vigor and enthusiasm. Invite them to share themselves with you. In order to gather more friendships you have to be ready for spending time, consuming your energy and have to be unselfish and thoughtful. 

PRINCIPLE 2: SMILE MAKES GOOD IMPRESSIONS

A smile is a gesture of kindness, a gift to uplift mood, a ray which brightens day and an action that speaks louder than words. If you greet someone with a smile, it makes them feel that you are open to have a good conversation with them and they feel an obligation to return same gesture. Smile is a turner of unpleasant events into pleasant ones, a breaker of walls of reluctance, a foundation for further interactions and a creator of positive ambience in office or at home.

If you don’t smile often cultivate a habit by exercising a forced smile, another way to compel yourself to smile is by reminding yourself of a good joke, memory, song or saying. Happiness is an internal phenomenon, when you are happy internally, happiness naturally appears externally. Smile is a sign that manifest interest and a want to be friends. A smile is a prerequisite for long lasting friendships.

PRINCIPLE 3: CALL PEOPLE WITH THEIR NAMES

Name is the sweetest sound in language for anyone. A person likes his name more than all the other names in the world combined. Being able to call someone with their name is a subtle way of giving them importance while forgetting and misspelling it shows lack of concern and triggers offence. Some people have difficulty memorizing and recalling names which is merely because they don’t take the time or invest necessary concentration to fix and repeat those in their minds. Remembering people names is tantamount to giving importance, which arouse in them the feelings of being liked and adored by you. When we call someone by their first names they unconsciously put more of their attention in what we say.

It is quite visible that people give too much importance to their names that most people name their grand children and their businesses after them. The name is a unique thing associated with a person and a best tool to use for approaching a situation. Regardless of whom you are dealing with, the magic of remembering names make you win them over.

PRINCIPLE 4: A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST TALKS LESS LISTENS MORE

To be a good conversationalist you don’t need to have good communication skills, all you require is a listening ear and a keen mind. To make others like you, whether you know them for years or just met them is by allowing them to speak more about themselves, show ample interest in their subject, be an attentive listener, and initiate questions related to their talks. They will consider it as one of the highest compliments from you and think of you as a good conversationalist despite of the fact that you said nothing and only listened to what they were saying.

However, any pretence of listening can be noticed and would damage your reliability as a listener and could be misjudged as you are not interested in them, don’t find them interesting or disrespect them. One more thing that should be taken into serious account, people are more interested in their problems than they can ever be in your problems and that of the world. Any deviation from the topic may lose their interest and they may shrink from further conversation.

In order to become a good conversationalist be genuinely interested in others, hold your tongue and open your ears, listen to them with concentration, ask them questions they enjoy answering and so they may feel best in your company and regard you as their good friend.

PRINCIPLE 5: TALK IN TERMS OF OTHERS INTEREST

The road to someone’s heart is the talk of things that person holds close. If you want to attract people’s attention approach them with something which is important or interesting according to them. Find out their interests and indulge them in the conversation which is piquant to their mind and which they love discussing and talking about.   

It feels amazing when a person shares same interests as yours, when there is a lot common and a lot to talk about. Say more about things which please them and they will enjoy talking to you for a very long time. By doing this you within a short period of time can develop good friendships and would become a person, who is inquired after and demanded by everyone.

PRINCIPLE 6: HOW TO MAKE THEM LIKE YOU INSTANTLY

The heading encompasses the feeling of importance in strangers and how it makes them like us. If you compliment a person who is a complete stranger to you about their smile hair, the way they dress or anything you notice which enhances their uniqueness or beautify their personality, they will take no time to like you and it would put them in a great mood for the rest of the day. But your compliment should be sincere you should mean what you say.

The life of so many persons could be changed if they get their due importance. An employee if given importance and esteemed as an asset to the company, will definitely treat all his customers with the same degree of importance for his company’s reputation. The same technique would do wonders when dealing with a spouse or a friend, talk about them and they will listen for hours, feel a sense of importance and admire and respect you for your generosity and tolerance.   

CONTINUED…

Language of a Rose!

For centuries, flowers with their vibrant colors and aromatic scents played a prominent role in sending a message that often words failed to express. Nothing has beaten the power of flowers conveying deepest emotions in any situation. Flowers with their beautiful blossoms have by far taken top slot in revealing feelings.  A thousand words could be saved when a flower is handed at the right moment. Their fleeting presence leaves the everlasting impressions and their variety serves almost every occasion.  Every flower has its uniqueness but Rose with its timeless beauty and charm, grace and elegance, diversity in colors and pleasant fragrance secures number one spot and has been chosen as the best alternative of words to communicate strong sentiments. No flower is revered and celebrated like Rose as it is the only flower that comes with nuances to fit the need of display of emotions at specific moments.

Rose has a deep rooted history that stood against the test of time, was first flourished about 35 million years ago and the mention of its wide admiration is evident in literature, art, religion and war. Egyptians considered rose as a sacred flower and used it as offerings to their goddess Isis and had adorned towns with rose wreaths which later discovered with the mummies. In Greek mythology rose was associated with their goddess of beauty and love, an Aphrodite. They were the first who tagged this flower with the title King of Flowers.  They decorated the ceilings of conference rooms and invented the term Sub Rosa, which means under the rose, a connotation of secrecy and confidentiality; subsequently adopted by the secret societies. In Roman times roses were used to embellish tables, in decorating floors and strewing petals in hallways .They extracted essential oils from roses and preserved them as fragrances and derived drugs for medical purposes. They painted walls and floors with rose sketches and filled their baths and fountains with rose water and petals.  In Christian religion Virgin Mary is referred to as a Mystical Rose. During Renaissance roses appeared in portraits, illustrations, as ornaments or as architectural elements. Roses had been a part of Napoleonic Wars and were bred at a huge scale for patronage. Modern day literature, media, music and art is not devoid of influence of rose; no one ever appeared on the face of Earth, who didn't enthrall by its charm and exalt its beauty.

In addition to symbolic significance, meaning of color and number of roses serve special reasons. The rose on the sphere of color, ties a special message with its distinction. Each color carries a unique code from the sender to recipient, if decoded instantly increases the value of the gesture of gifting and deepens the colors of sentiments bound with it.  To know exactly what color brings along what message, one has to master the language of roses. Here is a comprehensive guide to colors and meanings of roses for better interpretation.

1. RED ROSE

Love, Respect, Courage, Passion, Well Done, Congratulations

Words or pictures can never fully define the splendor of a red rose. It is selected to convey deepest desires of mind and longings of heart. The red color expresses the throbbing heat of love and a strong affection and thus becomes the symbol of true love and passion. A single red rose simply says I love you very deeply and promises of its endurance till end of days. In addition to beauty and passion, red rose also symbolizes courage; congratulates a job well done and appreciates efforts. Sometimes it denotes admiration and respect for its recipient while on other hand it can express sorrow and regret. An allure that is hard to resist, the red rose naturally becomes the first choice for sending strongest of messages.

2.  DARK RED ROSE

Unconscious Beauty, Commitment, Rejuvenated Passion

Dark red rose symbolizes unconscious beauty and is a frequent reminder of depth of love and passion. It has an air of mystery which makes it more captivating and magnetic. When moving a relationship to a next level a deep dark red rose is worth the effort of expressing without words into play. Many people hard to find a way to express a long term commitment, for them this rose says it all. It intensifies their feelings and aids them to overcome all the barriers of communication. In the arrest of confusion and fears of proposing someone after long courtship this rose when produced at the time of disclosure attracts only yeses. Moreover, it preserves flickering light of passion from completely dying off and rejuvenates older bonds with its presence and declaration of the love that never dies. Its profound quality never let down the expectations of its sender and has a promising impact on its recipient.

3. WHITE ROSE

 Purity, Secrecy, Innocence, Reverence, Humility, Worthiness, Sympathy, Spirituality

The white color is always related to purity, sincerity, virtue and chastity and so are these represented by the graceful white beauty of the white rose. Where someone wants to justify the purity of their sentiments, the genuineness of their intentions and worthiness of their presence, white rose is the right pick. It speaks about an innocent love, unaware of the desires of flesh and is merely concerned about fortifying the soul.  Unlike passionate red blooded rose, a white one glorifies love by linking sustainability through reverence, humility and unwavering loyalty and for the same reason a white rose has been a traditional wedding flower. A bride carrying white rose seeks to assure her loved one her chastity and innocence in whispers of a silent message, I am worthy of you. Its association with honor and reverence makes it a fitting memorial for the departed loved one. The meanings of this beautiful rose are as lovely as the flower itself.

4. PINK ROSE

Appreciation, Gratitude, Grace, Admiration, Joy, Gentleness, Femininity

From subtle hint of color to dark deep pink this flower blooms to flaunt grace and gentility. Its delicate aura makes it a flower of bridal arrangements and refined shades promote it for the selection in thank you and congratulation bouquets. A light shade of pink is also taken as an expression of sympathy. Being an incomparable indicator of joy and admiration a dark pink rose is sent to announce appreciation, to acknowledge pleasure and comfort in anyone’s company.   Pink rose is a package of sweet thoughts and gentle emotions, which packs within its blossom an invitation of deep affection and admiration that has not reached its prime. Where there are no overtones of love and just when expression of gratitude and extreme joy is mere message to convey it’s a call for dark pink rose.

5.  YELLOW ROSE

Friendship, Gladness, Delight, A New Beginning, Get well, Welcome back, Remember me, Jealousy

Throughout history yellow rose has been closely associated with the sun which makes it most suitable for cheering people up, communicating sunny feelings of joy warmth and welcome. It doesn’t carry undertone of romance and hence symbolizes platonic love. In Victorian times, yellow rose was given as a token of jealousy but today it represents friendship joy and caring. The foremost meaning of this rose is friendship and I care. Being congratulatory in tone it is given to newlyweds, new mothers, graduates, in celebrating a new beginning, a recovery from a disease or injury and lauding an achievement or fulfillment of someone’s dreams. This rose convinces of the relationship free from attachments but yet sincere, genuine and profound in quality. It also indicates a determination to begin anew, let us bury the hatchet, let us start a fresh page are constant urges of this special rose. In a dying love yellow rose is sent as a word of caution. In bidding byes, welcomes and good luck for future this rose plays a role of a friend who smiles with the warmest of feelings lies in its core.

6. ORANGE ROSE

Desire, Enthusiasm, Pride

An orange rose carries fiery blooms in its heart, and is therefore indicative of burning heat of desire. With breathtaking beauty and blazing color it expresses an equally brilliant and intense desire for the loved one. One meaning of orange rose is fascination; when you are awe struck and captivated by someone’s charm send them an orange rose. In another form orange rose depicts enthusiasm and energy which celebrates new ventures undertook.  When we honor ourselves to be associated with someone who makes us feel proud and we believe they deserve applause for that, the right flower to hand over is orange rose which affirms the belief how I keep my pride in you. Like the orange shades of a setting sun this rose conveys similar tone of powerful emotions.

7. PEACH ROSE

Appreciation, Sincerity, Gratitude, Modesty, Closing a Deal, Let’s party

Peach rose with it soft vibes and pleasing color often send as a gesture of appreciation or gratitude and on occasions where a slight show of sympathy is required this rose comes into action. The subtle gorgeous bloom is good for expressing thanks and how much a dear friend is missed. Besides its gentleness of conveying feelings of gratitude and pleasure, delicate emotions of constraint or reserve and a shy away modesty are well denoted by this rose. A peach rose on closing of an accord represents harmony, peace and bliss. In need to show earnestness of gesture and honesty of expressions this rose stirs air with a proof of sincerity. The clarity of color and dainty of beauty delivers genuine warmth and sincere thoughts without a tinge of love and this feature makes this extraordinarily beautiful rose a part of celebrations of social gatherings and friendly get together.

8. LAVENDER AND PURPLE ROSE

Enchantment, Love at First Sight, Royalty

 Nothing compares to smooth, flagrant and oriental beauty of purple rose showering extravagantly the shades of light from lighter to deeper tone into the eyes of beholder, the property which takes this flower to the tables all set for romantic experiences. Exotic and striking soft and gentle touches of this rose hardly miss an opportunity to convey a message of dignity and pride. The Lavender rose is an indicator of enchantment and lost in love since the first glance. Dark shades of purple rose which are synthetically produced pays tribute to man’s imagination and magical experiences. It also says about majesty, grace and grandeur.  Thus the spectrum of purple radiates royalty and is the best choice in the show of one’s highness of character.

9. BLUE ROSE

Unattainable, Impossible

This rose is not a part of nature however is available as variation of purple and lavender, which emits blue color in certain light.  The quest of man in attaining a perfect blue rose continues. Like its mysterious existence a blue rose expresses enigma, ambiguity and complexity. A person bearing such qualities is the sole recipient of this rare flower. As the notion of absolute blue rose the flower itself symbolizes something that is not within the reach or in a more grave sense of word is unattainable or considered impossible to achieve. It embodies the desire to achieve unachievable, compares to a love that is unrequited and therefore says I can’t have you but I can’t stop thinking about you.

10. BLACK ROSE

Death, Farewell

This rose does not exist in pure black form, only few shades of dark red are perceived as black. Meanings which are bind with black color are of tragedy and loss and thus this rose with its gloomy aura expresses a deep mourning over a death of loved one and sadness of paying farewell to someone whom chances of returning are thin. On some occasions a black rose indicates a change, as in giving up an old habit and order. Giving someone a black rose could also mean an end of a relation, idea and agreement.

 Some combinations of aforementioned roses can be made to deliver a bouquet of sentiments. A bouquet of red and white roses in equal balance symbolizes unity.  A mix of red and yellow conveys gaiety and happiness. A bunch of rosebuds represents innocence. A thorn less rose says love at first sight and a single rose of any color shows utmost devotion. And if one is not sure of one’s feelings they can choose every color of rose and make a bouquet out of it to send a note that says I don’t know what my feelings are but I am sure I do like you enough to treasure your presence with roses.

From declaration of love, joy in weddings, condolences at funerals, love in anniversaries, best wishes on birthdays, congratulations on promotion, celebrations of friendships, souvenirs of apology, expressions of gratitude, adornments of office desks, event decorations, candlelight dinners, in greeting someone, to no special reason; there is always a rose that carries the right message for the right occasion. It’s time to use nature for nature, a rose to uplift the mood, expressing timely feelings, making someone’s day and creating ever cherished memories is a gift of a lifetime to someone really special.

"A Rose adds value to your present and the sentiments involved, let the rose speak for you and so you will be heard forever..."